What's in a name?

So I made the mistake of wanting to hyphenate my name. That was epic. Not enjoying the snitty tone of voice I got from that. I mean, really. I am not rejecting your name, I just want to keep mine too. And last time I checked, you did not have to at all go through any of the crisis of having to think about changing your precious name in any way. I mean give me a break. You are seriously pissed over a hypen? It is this line of thinking that makes me crazy. Identity is important. Hypens are important. And there was a point in time when I didn't take your name at all and you were okay with it. I don't get it. And last time I checked, I moved to four states, changed my license four times, have only had 1 vacation that was what I wanted (and that was just not dragging a 4 month old across the country so thats stretching it, frankly). Sometimes I laugh, because you call me selfish. I laugh so hard, and then I cry. Because I don't have anything left but my faith that I can truly call my own. That you have not stripped away from me, brutally. Peeling away my layers. If you wanted a mold for a wife, why didn't you make me sign something somewhere? I mean I get it that the moves were part of what I (and I quote) "signed up for" but really, vacations with your family and hardly any of our own except conferences? Giving me shit about getting a vasectomy, shit over hyphenating my name, shit, shit, shit. SO you give me the little incidentals I dont care about. I guess you think that will make me happy. Well, it doesn't. Oh and Im the difficult one. Because I'm not your little mold. I'm not a mold. You ask for intimacy but how can you have that if there is nothing left of me to give? And there really isn't. If I even pretended to care about anything anymore. Because you have won all the battles but I have stopped caring a really long time ago. You ask me what I want but thats such a joke. Because what i really want is not what you want and you can't compromise. Becuase your people took over the world (England). Your people are also failing now and my people are thriving (Denmark). Its about compromise. Oh but wait if we compromise thats me getting my way. Wow.